tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256767003732037215.post3560070375795552784..comments2019-03-23T00:15:07.315+08:00Comments on Siberian Ginseng: The Blanket/Punching Dilemma: On Rape and Mommy BlogsSannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04482859224170145636noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256767003732037215.post-72693846476491499782011-02-19T05:08:52.072+08:002011-02-19T05:08:52.072+08:00I just thought I'd be a bit contrarian about t...I just thought I'd be a bit contrarian about the last point because I have absolutely no experience whatsoever with being a Mommy or writing a Mommy blog.<br /><br />I agree that the article comes across as pretty condescending, but I also think what a.b. just said is a good point: part of what seems so dismissive is the use of the word 'mommy'. In any formal situations like the article it comes across as kind of infantile, so the fact that it's used everywhere as an adjective doesn't help the situation. I suspect within the community it's coded very differently and with somewhat of a sly wink (we call ourselves 'Mommy' when it's actually incredibly complex), but for an outsider it just sounds weird.<br /><br />It's sloppy writing of the article to adopt that as the tone for the piece, but when I hear 'Mommy blog' it probably has similar connotations for me, as opposed to 'Parenting blog' (I'm still unsure how I'd feel about the term 'Daddy blog', especially since it sounds like a gay porn thing.)Philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17459179422734806990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256767003732037215.post-74858527473448960382011-02-18T00:45:15.537+08:002011-02-18T00:45:15.537+08:00I'll help with the punching. I had to take a b...I'll help with the punching. I had to take a break from from all my feminist blogs (I got too sad) for a few days and completely missed this story. Manboobz.com has a great(terrible?) list of comments about the story. Savvy career move, really?<br /><br />The term "mommy blogger" makes me cringe but also reminds me how much internalized misogyny I am still dealing with.a. b.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17104737221730849084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256767003732037215.post-25860131128087248002011-02-17T13:57:26.638+08:002011-02-17T13:57:26.638+08:00(I'm sorry, this ended up rather longer than I...(I'm sorry, this ended up rather longer than I intended. Hopefully the links are interesting.)<br /><br />It's ridiculous that some of the same people who agree that Wikileaks is "important for democracy" are willing to completely forget the most basic principle of democracy: the right of anyone to be treated fairly under the law... yes, even if they are, or are accusing, someone famous. (Ridiculous, but not unpredictable.) But on top of this is the rather horrible attitude that rape apologism, victim blaming and pompous pontification about "what is rape, really?" are all absolutely fine topics for unbalanced, uncritical, unqualified public discussion and are "important discussions to have."<br /><br /><a href="http://mymilkspilt.wordpress.com/2010/12/09/who-hears-you-when-you-speak-about-rape/" rel="nofollow">Pfft</a>.<br /><br />There are so many people who will demand citation and qualification from someone prepared to comment on a scientific issue, but think they're qualified to talk about subtle and insidious cultural problems without ever having picked up a book on it themselves. Case studies? Interviews with the police, lawyers, counsellors, doctors, judges, victims and perpetrators? Cultural and historical analysis that convincingly describes how, yes actually, a lack of women in engineering or judging mummies for caring about their blogs is <em><a href="http://www.susanbrownmiller.com/susanbrownmiller/html/against_our_will.html" rel="nofollow">fundamentally</a></em> <a href="http://hoydenabouttown.com/20091109.6944/university-colleges-nurturing-a-rape-culture/" rel="nofollow">connected</a> to rape (and rape apologism, and mischaracterisation of rapists).<br /><br />Naaah, that's not evidence, it's all just indoctrination, right? And here's this SCIENCE (aka. ethnocentric survey of 15 people attending the same university campus with no control group) that PROVES that women wear makeup to help them pick berries to improve their childrens' immune systems.<br /><br /><a href="http://heeris.id.au/2010/disproved-lesbians-wearing-makeup" rel="nofollow">Pfft</a> <a href="http://www.badscience.net/2007/08/pink-pink-pink-pink-pink-moan/" rel="nofollow">to that</a> <a href="http://blogs.plos.org/blog/2011/02/11/let%E2%80%99s-say-good-bye-to-the-straw-feminist/" rel="nofollow">too</a>.<br /><br />But, of course, thanks to the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect" rel="nofollow">Dunning-Kruger effect</a> these people often dominate the more public discussions, because anyone smart enough to know about privilege, or the "hidden brain," or making the invisible visible... well, they're afraid they might just be waving their privilege around too.<br /><br />If someone doesn't identify as a feminist, but is willing to listen in good faith to your arguments, I'm okay with that... up to point. The point is either (a) when, after hours of debate, they say "I just don't agree with feminism because <em>«something that has nothing to do with feminism that they read in some anti-feminist opinion piece»</em>" despite you showing them the dictionary entry, or (b) when they are clearly espousing feminist concerns and ideals, but refuse to associate with an established movement and want to start their own, thus dividing all of our collective efforts and dooming us all to repeat the same activism with the signs changed.<br /><br />But as for the loud-mouthed anti-feminist proclaimer, or the person who inevitably says "feminism was important decades ago, but it's all just whingeing now," my standard response is along the lines of, "feminism is about the same things now as it was forty years ago — the rights of women to be treated equally to men, and exposing and criticising the sexism that prevents this. Which of those things are you 'anti,' exactly?"<br /><br />Then I will call you so that you can punch them.Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704456143180806343noreply@blogger.com